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Words From The Better Half

      Bette Pycraft


                           Encouraging Your Pastor's Wife



    Healthy pastors are vital to the development of thriving churches, strong communities, and healthy families.  But caring for your Pastor means caring for your Pastor’s wife and children too.  In many ways she has the most difficult role in the church.  Remember Pastors are special, but a Pastor’s wife is a blessing.  Here are some ways to be an encouragement to her.  Tell her:

  1.   I am praying for you.  We love you.

  2.   Thank you for sharing your husband with us.

  3.   Thank you for sharing your lives with us.  We love you.

  4.   I do not want anything from you but your friendship.

  5.   Let me help.  We love you.

  6.   You have such great kids.

  7.   Let me know if you need anything.  We love you.

  8.   I overheard this compliment.  “You are a success at ( insert career choice).”

  9.   I really missed you this morning.

  10.   How do you feel?  We love you.

  11.   We appreciate what you bring to the church.

  12.   We would love to put you on staff so you can serve the Lord full time.

  13.   Here’s a gift card for you and your husband to have a date.

  14.   I would like to keep your children as often as once a week so you and your      husband can spend time together.

  15.   We love you and we love your husband.

  16.   Thank you for all you do.

  17.   Your marriage is such an inspiration to me.

  18.   Can I take you to lunch?  We will not talk about church, and I have no complaints.  I just want to spend time with you.  (Let her know up front there is no agenda so she won’t worry about it.)


                      "Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest."  Mark6:31



                            Retreat Info



Held at The Shack Country Inn 2263 W 14th St., White Cloud, MI 49349,  Phone 231-924-6683  


Coming Retreats 

Pastors  Retreats  June 26-30 2023 and October 9-13 2023

What is a Spiritual Retreat?

It is a strategic withdrawal from the "world" in order to be alone with God.


Why take a spiritual retreat?

Jesus is the model – He routinely took his disciples away or went away by himself. God often speaks in a still small voice – we need solitude to hear Him.


What can we expect?

Let God set the agenda – be expectant. Be ready for peaceful, quiet and beautiful surroundings with plenty of uninterrupted time. God always shows up – He is true to his promise.


Why is there a Shepherds Care Ministries?

It was God’s idea and He called Ernie Hautala to start a ministry to reach out to full- time Christian workers. He is calling others as well. Our society needs Christian pastors who are close to God – ministry often leads them away. Weariness makes leaders lose their courage – rest restores courage. Pastors and their spouses are often separated from each other because of ministry pressure


What is done on a spiritual retreat?

Follow one of the program guides or design your own. Disconnect from the world by observing a media fast. Get proper rest. Listen more than you speak. Listen through God’s Word and prayer. Listen through music or by just watching His creation. Listen through the books provided to help direct this type of retreat.


Why are they Free?

This concept is fairly new to the protestant church in America. Many churches do not provide the time away or the money for a pastor couple to go on a retreat.  Just as salvation is a free gift and evidence of God’s love, so these retreats are free so that pastor couples have more tangible evidence of His love for them.

                                                             Retreat dates for 2023

                                    June 26-30 2023 and October 9-13 2023


                                                                                 Contact Information


                                                        Shepherd Care Ministries

                                                        Rev. Bob Pycraft - Executive Director

                                                        1765 Pinewood knoll

                                                        Kentwood, Michigan 49508

                                                        Cell 616-318-8972


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